Yikes, that's a lot of books. I don't like Lewis's space trilogy either, but he DOES speak explicitly about the role of the sexes there. You may argue that his wife Joy changed his attitudes drastically, I don't know.
I do know though, that the Inklings at least talked about these things and that Charles Williams also had interesing ideas about the relationships of the sexes. He uses the Galations line about "bearing one another's burdens" as a model for life. A woman cannot grow a baby without the participation of a man. A man obviously needs a woman to do the same. This is a model of interdependence that is how the sexes are meant to relate to one another. Cooperation and "getting up to get the spouse the drink of water in the night." Things spouses do for each other--little sacrifices that may be easier for one to do to relieve or help the other so that the math comes out as more--that doesn't make sense. If another human is stumbling and having a hard time, there may be something that I can do that is very easy for me but that helps that other person a lot. Silmilarly, others can do things for me that help me a lot but which cost them less than the amount of my gain. The model involves each person leveraging their own God-given gifts (easy and often pleasant work) so that the good achieved outweighs the cost.
I'm glad you got The Discarded Image. That's fundamental and will give you a lot of bang for your reading effort buck.
Yes, I pity an author working on such a project. One would have to keep notes on all ideas and sources where ideas came from, marking up books and using tons of Post-Its. I would have a hard time remembering it all.
Now what I am interested in is what books you recommend for understanding more Pagan ideas.
